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arachne ([personal profile] arachne) wrote2010-12-29 05:44 pm

#reverb10 day 10 - wisdom

December 10 – Wisdom. What was the wisest decision you made this year, and how did it play out? (Author: Susannah Conway)

I'm not sure about using the word "wise" to describe any decisions I make. I'm far more a believer in doing what feels right and seeing how it plays out, winging it, playing life by ear and hoping for the best.

That said, there was one decision I made that has had a fairly massive impact on my life, and I've yet to regret it for a minute, 5 months after putting it in action. Y'all don't need me to elaborate, because I've been squeeing quite loudly about it (in #reverb10 day 1, among other places), but I'm going to anyway, because these are meant to be writing prompts and it'd be a bit rubbish to just say "see day 1" to every one that asks about the best day ever.

So, sometime in the first half of the year, I decided to move to Manchester, and it was, in fact, the best day ever. I also decided to live by myself, and to stay single for a while - I'm counting all of these things as one decision, because they're all interconnected. I've certainly had moments where I've felt very lonely, but they've been fleeting, and have fucked off pretty quickly with application of awesome friends, both online and off. I've still to actually regret any part of that decision in the slightest, and I don't see that moment coming any time soon.

The one thing that might screw things up is the package of cuts to Housing Benefit. The gov't have decided, in their wisdom, to stop paying anyone under 35 enough to live by themselves, and will only pay them the rate they'd pay if they had a single room in a shared house. This'll leave me approximately £45 per week short of my rent, which I can't afford to top up out of my other benefits. I'm going to fight tooth and nail to keep this place, because if nothing else living alone has been absolutely wonderful for my mental health, but... watch this space.

Housing benefit cuts

[identity profile] 2010-12-29 11:54 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't see the sense in these cuts. I wonder what the idea is behind it?

[identity profile] 2010-12-31 10:54 am (UTC)(link)
My plan for this year is to move to Cardiff, get a place on my own, and stay single for a bit. I'm looking forward to it, I'm also worried about having no one to share films with on tv, which is an odd worry but its there. I know it is what I need to do for myself.