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arachne ([personal profile] arachne) wrote2010-12-07 11:23 pm

#reverb10 day 5 - Let Go

December 5 – Let Go. What (or whom) did you let go of this year? Why? (Author: Alice Bradley)

There are two entries for this prompt. One is staying private. This is the other one.

I let go of quite a lot this year, but I feel I've pretty much covered that in my gushing positivity on the 1st.

To reiterate then (hooray! Another short one!) the most important letting go, I reckon, was of my co-dependency. When a relationship ended this year, I thought back and realised I'd only been single for about 6 months of my adult life, and that I'd changed a whole lot in that time. It was almost like I was scared of not being in a relationship, afraid that if I spent time on my own I'd get to know myself or something. So, I made a decision to be single for a year. I'm 4 months in now, and still not regretting that decision.

So of all the things I've let go of, my need to be with another person was definitely the most important, and I think it'll help me be a better partner if/when I do get into relationships in the future. It's a win-win.

[identity profile] pleiadeslion.livejournal.com 2010-12-07 11:49 pm (UTC)(link)
Letting go of my codependency was a big thing for me too.

Actually I read a book about codependency and according to the test at the end, I only scored 10% and you have to score 30% to be codependent, but even at 10% I think I was codependent enough that it led me into, or at least kept me in, two extremely damaging relationships. Reading the book taught me a lot; they treated codependency as an addiction like alcohol, so it gave me a bit of an understanding of alcoholism too.

So... go you :)